- Do you have bold dreams, but feel that the constant uncertainty has put your life on hold?
- Do you want to change your focus, but feel that the emotional rollercoaster of infertility took over your relationships, your work, your body – in fact all of you?
- Do you want to set new goals, but don’t feel fully supported living with this silent struggle?
- Do you want to take action, but end up watching Netflix in your sweatpants?
If any of these are true for you, I get it. Because they are all true for me too.
I still cringe with every pregnancy announcement. I’m am sick and tired of all the well-meaning but unhelpful, even hurtful, advice. I hate the injections and the bloating. I am disgusted by the clinical vibe and I can’t stand the waiting anymore. It seems that everyone around me is falling pregnant by just looking at each other, but no, not for me. And every month again, it’s right there, in my face…
Trust me. You are not alone.
Like many women, I have been looking for answers and so I connected with other women going through infertility in online forums, Facebook groups, and Instagram feeds. I can’t count the hours I spend reading blogs, noting down tips, and looking for emotional support.
After a while, I realized that a community can only support you so much. I had enough of feeling half alive. I had to find a way through the pain. I’ve talked to therapists and psychologists. But things really shifted when I picked up my habit of gratitude and looked for joy in the things I always loved to do. For years, I tried to minimize the struggles. Now, I choose to maximize my life experience between the hope, pain, and 2-week waits. Unfortunately, I still don’t have a child, but it doesn’t stop me anymore to live an awesome life. And that’s what I wish for you too…
- Are you a woman who wants to live life on her own terms?
- Are you a woman who wants to take back control?
- Are you a woman who wants to maximize her life experience?
Welcome, Warrior! You are at the right place!
I created ‘The Unstoppable Woman‘ as a small-group experience for women who are dealing with infertility, and who are ready to start living life on their own terms again. Women who are ready to step into their power, connect with other unstoppable women to move towards a life that they love.
This doesn’t mean that you stop hoping for a child, it just means that your life is full of other amazing things that you have the time right now to really focus on and appreciate.
“Infertility sucks, but you don’t!”
For sure, it seems nearly impossible to stop obsessing about pregnancy while dealing with infertility. Babies are all around you. You spend countless hours in the doctor’s office checking this, assessing that – all in the hopes of having the sperm meet the egg.
I am not here to tell you how to deal with infertility, but to support you in living your best life while dealing with infertility.
It’s time for you to live a CREATED life…
You have to do it all by yourself, but you don’t have to do it all alone!
Join me and other incredible women on an amazing journey to create a fulfilling personal and professional life! Find other goals which light you up, figure out action steps that you’ll actually do, stop overthinking, step into your power and create certainty in these uncertain times.
Over a 12-week period, you’ll remove the ‘hold’ button, and hit the ‘live’ button.
– You will figure out what matters to you
– You will use your gifts to your advantage
– You will write your own terms and conditions
– You will choose your story
– You will take responsibility for your own happiness
– You will cut out the crap
– You will look fear in the eye, and smile
During this experience, you will increase your clarity and confidence – alongside a tribe of real women, with big dreams, just like you.
You only have ONE life, let’s not waste it!
My name is Rianna Hijlkema.
In 2011 I broke up with my boyfriend, sold my house, lost my job, my savings, and my cat. I lost everything, except my car, so I drove to Paris and started all over. Well, not THAT easy.
I was overwhelmed and very confused, but I found a way to use this major life transition to design a life of my choice.
Now I’m a serial entrepreneur, digital nomad, full-time traveler, happily married with my soulmate, and one of those who didn’t succeed – against all odds – diagnosed with ‘unexplained infertility’.
For 5+ years I’m juggling my nomadic lifestyle with fertility treatments (IUI, IVF) and it is one of my most challenging experiences. Dealing with pain, fear, hope, anger, confusion, heartache, frustration, crying, grief, disappointment, misunderstanding, anxiety, envy, sadness, and isolation all at once, while living abroad.
But one year ago, I decided that my pity party had to end. It was affecting my relationships, my health, and my happiness. I had come to the conclusion that there was nobody who could give me the support I needed anyway, so I had to take back control over this whole messed-up situation.
I moved to Mexico because I knew that the sun would do me good. I went on several trips, made a bunch of new friends, and I even had my first glass of alcohol since years! And you know what, last week I heard myself say out loud: “I feel so alive!” – and I honestly cried tears of joy.
It’s tough, confronting, and hasn’t been easy every day, but I’ve decided to let the doctors work on it, while I’m living my life to the fullest (between the freaking appointments). I want to be happy, healthy, and ready for that one day I’m holding our little one in my arms…
Join me on this unique journey to discover your other desires, the ones that got forgotten and left behind while dealing with infertility. Stop putting your life on hold, and start living NOW!
‘The Unstoppable Woman’ – Group Coaching Program
- Sessions on embracing your power and creating a life that you love!
- Join the group sessions live on Zoom
- Each session will run for 60 minutes (but block out 90 minutes in case we need it).
- Sessions run weekly on Tuesday from 1:00 – 2:00 pm EST
- Investment for 12 sessions: $349
What most people know about me is…
- I’m a serial entrepreneur, digital nomad, full-time traveler, and happily married with my soulmate.
- Originally from The Netherlands, but living abroad for 11+ years. I’ve been born and raised in a Frisian tribe (yes, that stubborn part in the North of the Netherlands that speaks another language besides Dutch), of which I’m very proud.
- I have found a way to combine several passions into an amazing career, which are all enriching each other in multiple ways. I am a women empowerment coach, teacher-director, graphic designer, postpartum doula, and pediatric sleep consultant. I work with women and their families all around the world to help them thrive and grow.
- I am constantly on the move, crossing oceans, climbing mountains, and driving around on the motorbike. Everything I own fits in my backpack and I have friends all around the world.
- I am a typical Capricorn; ambitious, disciplined, loyal, sensitive, and quite practical. I always aim high, like to dive deep, and continuously work towards my idea of an extraordinary life.
But, what most people don’t know about me is…
- In 2018 I found my husband’s name on the list of dead people, whom didn’t survive the double natural disaster in Palu, Indonesia. Only fifteen hours later I got a phone call that he was still alive. What most people don’t know about me is that up to now I totally freak out if I don’t hear anything from him for more than 3 hours. I’m talking about a raised heartbeat, short of breath and a mind that’s imagining the worst things possible.
- In 2019, after years of dreaming and hard work, we managed to get a visa and started our live in Nepal. In the midsts of several projects and the construction of our house, Covid-19 came and we had to leave. After 3 months of severe confusion we redesigned our life. We both changed from expats to digital nomads and truly enjoying our new life in Mexico. What most people don’t know is that I feel guilty for having left the friends we made and the children of the school in the village and I keep sending a percentage of my earnings to support educational projects in Nepal.
- Sometimes I need to take a holiday from my lifestyle.
- Despite living the life exactly as I want it, I feel guilty towards my parents, my 3 younger brothers and my friends for being so far away. I try to show my support in other ways, but know that this is not always enough.
- I’m actually an introvert. As a highly sensitive person I need more down time than most people, to decompress all the emotions, experiences and stories from the people I’ve been in contact with.
- I gave up on cheese (yes, I’m Dutch!) cold turkey after joining WildFit back in 2020.
- I got married twice, with the same man.
- I’m telling everyone how important yoga is to improve your wellbeing, but can’t get myself on the mat. Somehow I seem to get more relaxed after a good boxing session.
- People think that I’m fearless, but that’s not true. I’m scared of making mistakes, saying the wrong things and upset or hurt other people. I’m afraid of not being good enough, for friends, family and sometimes even strangers. I’m afraid of spiders (and they are big outside of Europe!) and injections (thank you IVF!). The only difference is that I just don’t let my fears stop me.
Read how other women describe the experience of working with me
“After I lost a family member and my job, I felt lost and emotionally out of balance. The support that Rianna gave me, was the perfect gift to help me move forward.
Rianna guided me to open up the different layers and then helped me flip this information into something practical for the future. Every week something new surprised me in the different areas of my life. The framework she is using clarified many things, which led to revelations during the week, which helped me make new decisions.
When I started working with Rianna, I was more selfless, this changed throughout the sessions and now I realize that I should not only take care of other people but that I need to do more things for myself and express who I am so that I can really serve the people around me with my biggest strengths.
It was a very empowering experience and it uncovered a lot of things that really helped me move forward. Rianna was a crucial piece in the transition that I was going through.“
Laura Giosh-Markov
Positive Discipline workshop facilitator, a Parent Consultant, Counselor, and Music Therapist.
“I contacted Rianna, because I was going through a deep down. I was feeling lost, I didn’t know where to start, I was overwhelmed with self-doubt and I had no clarity at all on where to go, or even to start. I was very confused and struggling in my current situation, trying to find my path.
I resonated with Rianna’s message and was provoked by her way of living her life. In the first session, I shared what I thought were the most important areas of my life, but when we started digging in and analyzing what was behind them, they turned out to be something quite different.
Rianna created a powerful structure in which she doesn’t make you dependent on the coach but gave me the power to continue going on without her. After this experience, I started doing things differently. I know now that, whenever there is a challenge or a conflict, I now have the tools to sit down, work through them and understand why I feel a certain way.
Every session that we had, brought new interesting facts and new ways of looking at things. Rianna does an amazing way of guiding; very encouraging, supportive, but also challenging.”
Maria Kacharava
Lucky mom of 5, Support Service Team Leader
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